Tell him you are upset about something and want to talk about it, If you don't have a friend nearby, perhaps seek out a support group. I'm writing some of my favorite parts here, but I'd still definitely re-read it to see the up close and personal applications of the triangle with different people. This book may be useful for those who lack even the slightest bit of self-awareness but I am not that person. Hendel does well to explain that this trauma may be something as simple as our caregiver responding to us in a negative way when we’re excited, so that as an adult we learn to suppress our excitement and thus is not really the fault of our caregivers.

Hendel teaches us that core emotions like joy, anger, sadness, fear, and excitement, are automatic and universal physical experiences; this is firmly grounded in neuroscience. The author just talks about past experiences from childhood that may have carried into one's adult life. It can also release some of the expectations we have around emotions, and feeling like we need to “fix” them or change them.patient to attend not only to his thoughts and emotions but also to the physical experience of those thoughts and emotions. When fully experiencing core emotions, without judgment, fear, shame, guilt, or anxiety, we can enter a state of openheartedness, which can be best described using the 7 C’s: calm, curious, connected, compassionate, confident, courageous, and clear. Like other reviewers, I also question the relevance of the title and the - perhaps - tacit message that depression can be overcome through introspection and accessing core emotions. Learn to recognise how and when you are stifling your emotions and how to take responsibility for your life.

I am currently listening to your audiobook and it’s definitely in my top most influential and helpful books. Working the change triangle around and around again over a lifetime leads us back to this openhearted state with regularity.

This is the basis of 'accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy:' it accelerates healing through having an emotional experience in the here and now.

How can it be that a seemingly depressed person, one who shows clinical symptoms, doesn’t respond to antidepressants or psychotherapy?It’s interesting that there appears to be a lot of literature recently which is focused on the use of psychotherapy of a similar psychoanalytical kind to that which Hendel discusses. He could barely bring himself to speak, and his voice, when I managed to get anything out of him, was meek. The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products. As a psychiatrist and therapist for over 40 years I have always encouraged my patients to pay attention to how they are feeling and thinking.