i want my husband to share me. i have had this desire for a long time. it started when my husband told me, during foreplay one night, he wanted to watch me have sex with another man. we talked about it and i said i would like to do it. but after the sex was over i told him that i really didn't want to do it. i was afraid that he would think less of me if i did it. also, i was afraid people would find out if i did it. but i do want to do it and i have been wanting to do it since my husband said he would like to watch me with another man. i think about it all the time and especially when i make love to my husband. however, my husband has never mentioned it again after i told him i did want to do it. but i really, really do want to so badly. my husband really sounded so excited by the idea of me having sex with someone. what i want to know, from people with experience in this, is how to proceed in this. i know i will have to ask my husband and i am wondering if i hurt his feelings rejecting it when he first asked me. he keeps his hurts suppressed so i am not sure if i hurt his feelings. he has not acted different. how do i prepare myself for having sex with another man and being married and my husband being there. my husband wanted to have sex with me after the other man has cum. i feel intimidated by the process of getting started. i guess it is making the first step. i am a bit shy. i am a second generation filipina-american. my family raised me to be quiet, seen but not heard. my father was an administrator and my mother was a teacher. i am in my early thirties and have two children. my husband is an army sergeant. he is very bold. he is more than twice my size. i am 5 feet, 1/2 inches tall and he is 6 feet 3 inches. i weigh 94lbs and he is 221lbs. he has many big muscles. and he is very kind and loving to me. we don't have any problems in our marriage. we have been married 7 years. i know i am not good at communicating, but we laugh a lot and talk every night. when we go to bed, my husband asks me about my day. he always asks about how i feel about things. i feel that i am happy. i am never bored. he makes love to me often. he is the only man i have had sex with. i think that makes me very interested in having another man while my husband watches. he is more experienced than me and said that he believes a married woman does not becomes her husbands property and that she needs to be her own person with her own likes and desires. i think i must talk about this with my husband and i will. but i think my big fear is how i will act and what will my husband think of me. does he really want me to enjoy another man's body to the point i really want it and like it alot? i think of two men touching me, having sex with me when i have sex with my husband. how do you women. who have done this, prepare yourself for it? how do you men see your wife afterwards. When they will be finished I don’t know and we are running out of money to do everything. My husband switches from day work to night shift every other week so his time working on the house is limited. But we all three came together then. He pulled out of her and shot a big load all over that beautiful bustier. Some even went up onto her face. I saw on the camera she had to wipe her face after he was done. I still loved my husband, in no way any less than before. He was still my world and the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. But suddenly I felt the same for someone else. Was it possible to love two people? Society says no. At the same time Sam didn’t want me to leave my husband, he loved my husband as a friend and didn’t want to tear our family apart, his feelings came around as unexpectedly as mine did, and he never intended nor wanted to steal me away.

RightThisMinute Log in | RTM - RightThisMinute

Then came the morning I will never forget, well, one of many which would follow over the next few weeks. It was the morning after a group of us had been to the club and stayed together in a hotel. My amazing husband left a condom, and a note for us when he went to work telling us to have fun. I am guessing he also thought it could help to just get Sam out of my system. If you add a man to your bedroom, how long till your husband wants to add a woman? It would be fair, right? And then HOW would you feel? You just lie down, mister, and enjoy yourself,” she said. “I’ve been fantasizing about doing this for about three months.” After what felt like months, the night finally came. I had had a little too much alcohol, as had he, but we had a great time. The sexual attraction I had built toward Sam over the weeks had become extremely strong, and I figured like most encounters at the club, once it had happened the sexual tension would ease. Unfortunately this wasn’t the case, and I was left looking forward to the next opportunity to be with him. The royalty perk. In the 1960s Motown song, the line goes "save the last dance for me," as the husband watches his wife dance with other men. Many of the men I interviewed got a thrill, a sense of being "king" that they had a wife who was so sexy that other men wanted to be with, but who ultimately came home with him, the husband. It made the men feel powerful and successful that they had such a sexy wife.

Primary

The mention of visiting a swingers club (where couples swap partners for an evening) had come up a few times, and eventually we decided to take the plunge. We set our rules before we headed in, both extremely nervous, neither knowing what to expect. The next morning my husband went to work as he aways did, and Sam and I were left at home. He came to lie with me on my bed, and we both cried. We kissed, we held each other, and we cried. “You know we can’t see each other again,” he told me over and over. “We have to end this.” My tears were constant and I just shook my head, over and over, “You can’t just walk out of my life…” The thrill of the taboo. There are few things in our society as stigmatized as a husband whose wife is unfaithful. Historically, such men have been beaten, ostracized, and ridiculed, and regarded as weak, "sissy men." Some of the men I interviewed described explicitly that the taboo was the thrill for them, from the excitement of the forbidden and the naughty. Don’t get me wrong, this is what I wanted. To enjoy the sight of my wife getting everything she needed, no matter who was giving it to her.

Women Who Sleep with Other Men While Their Husbands Watch

Although extremely angry at me, he could see this was serious. He knew me, he knew that I was struggling and when my words eventually came, he listened. To this day I don’t know what I did to deserve such an amazing person in my life. My wife is a massage therapist. A few years ago we bought a house with an unfinished basement, which I converted into a mini spa for her to do her work at home. I was supporting her career endeavor, but I also had my own interests in mind. There is a nice full bathroom, a changing room, and the massage room, all of which have hidden cameras. She doesn't know. I have never and would never share anything I have recorded. It's just for own enjoyment. But I didn't really even come here to confess that part. In your head, the fantasy has played out in several version (I bet) and none of them ended in a negative fashion or emotionally hurtful.

Now I am sure he has been doing it for at least six months but the quilt has been over the bathroom door since last October. I can see when he is moving the quilt out of the way but never let on that I know he is watching me. I wanted to prove it to myself so badly I have placed the video camera under the blanket of my bedroom door aimed at the bathroom 10 times in the last few months. While I love a good fantasy (naughty or nice) I think the reason we DO fantasize is that we want full control over a situation. Who says what, who does what, who feels and think what. THAT! you can do in a fantasy. NOT in reality.